My younger self confidence was terrible. So much so, it prevented me from really trying to accomplish anything that would take more than a day to complete. This being said, I did not at all understand the concepts of “the compound effect”. I believed too much into nature and nurture from a passive perspective ( If it were meant to happen for me, it would be so). Over the years of learning in college class rooms, from anecdotal experiences, changing in environmental influences, and other personal studies; I have found my mindset, perspective, and ideologies were significantly self limiting. So much so, it was a belief that my value to others were nugatory. It prevented me from every truly trying to find my own capabilities because I believed it was not possible. Lack of confidence prevented me from appropriately interacting with others of whom I did not already know, feeding into an introvert preference. Although it took digging deeper into personal reasons why I had this mental perspective of myself, there was at some point a mental shift of “what if?”
- What If we actually tried to interact with others on a daily basis, we could become better at communicating?
- What if I stuck to this educational process for 6 months to attain what once was a dream?
- What if I try to learn all that I can, apply myself in the best way I can?
- What if I stay consistent and committed to this ideal goal?
- What if I never even try before I die?
Reflection: One change in mindset is giving gratitude to 1-3 things daily. Giving both acknowledgement to others reinforces positive or preferred behavior. It also changes one’s mindset to seek the good opposed to seeking the negatives. Not keeping the score, the more we reflect on how much we might have done for a common goal compared to others; the more we are inclined to resent others for it. This is looking for negatives in others opposed to looking at the alternative positive things that they are accomplishing. This begins to shape perception of every day.
Goal Pivoting: I attempt to set goals that sound exciting, but realize one goal can take focus and attention away from other more important goals. I continue to work on self reflection and assessment of where I am in relation to those goals. Noticing that chasing one squirrel will deter you from others, keeping the most important goals prioritized and putting off the less essential goal as to not loose sight of the long term vision.
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